We earn respect through our performance as leaders, and through our actions.
Or in the words of author Byron Pulsifer “Respect is not something that you can ask for, buy or borrow. Respect is what you earn from each person no matter their background or status”.
Unfortunately, there may be a few of us who may not be earning respect. So, here are my top 10 – recommended actions to help earn respect.
1. Treat others like you like to be treated.
2. Speak to others like you like to be spoken to.
3. Acknowledge others.
4. Show an interest in others.
5. Be approachable.
7. Make conversations comfortable.
8. Provide constructive feedback.
9. Tell the truth.
10. Do what you say you’ll do – follow through.
There are many more actions you can take to earn respect.
My leadership tip for you this week, is to grade yourself on the 10-actions above and identify at least 3 – other actions you take, or could take, to earn respect.
Earning respect also takes time, a conscious effort and strong self-awareness. With respect comes trust, another important quality of an effective leader.
I’m not sure who said it, but “Trust takes years to build, seconds to destroy and forever to repair”.
It all starts with a consistent demonstration of respect.